C
Confidentiality
What is shared here stays here, with legally required exceptions named clearly.
The model
A bounded container for nonlinear grief.
Quarterly gatherings. Trained hosts. Clinical backstop. Theology that will not rush you. The structure is the care.
At a glance
Simple enough to host. Serious enough to trust.
01
Hosted by local churches
Chapters live inside congregations — not as a detached program, but as a faithful ministry of the church.
02
Quarterly in-person gatherings
A bounded rhythm that honors grief without making it an identity, and that protects leaders from burnout.
03
Trained lay facilitators
Hosts of structure, not healers. They listen, keep safety, and never diagnose, fix, or interpret trauma.
04
Clear safety & theological bounds
C.R.E.A.T.E. guidelines, no spiritual bypass, no cross-talk, and a right to pass — every time.
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Licensed clinical supervision
Every chapter has a defined backstop: consult hours, debrief, and a path for crisis referral.
A gathering
Ninety to one hundred twenty minutes. Same bones every time.
15 min
Arrival & hospitality
A warm greeting, soft light, no loud music, printed guidelines.
10 min
Opening grounding
Breath prayer, a slow psalm of lament, and a clear frame: this is not a space to fix.
10 min
Teaching frame
A short reflection on lament, presence, or naming grief — never a sermon in reply to pain.
60–75 min
Structured sharing
Timed, no interrupting, no advice, 3–5 minutes per share. Passing is always permitted.
10 min
Closing liturgy
Corporate lament and a prayer of presence. No forced hope statements. A quiet exit.
C.R.E.A.T.E.
Safety is said out loud. Every gathering.
R
Respect
No correcting, ranking, or comparing grief.
E
Effective communication
Speak from your own story. Use “I.” No advice unless asked.
A
Active listening
One conversation at a time. No cross-talk. Silence is allowed.
T
Trust
Safety is built through predictable structure, not intensity.
E
Empathy
We witness. We do not fix, diagnose, or spiritualize pain.
Core cycle
Four sessions. A year of quarterly rhythm.
Broad enough for mixed groups. Flexible enough for specialized lanes as a chapter matures.
01
Reaching UP
Seen by God
God’s nearness in pain and hiddenness.
Psalm 34:18 · Genesis 16:7–14
02
Reaching OUT
Not Alone
Finding community in loss and waiting.
Galatians 6:2 · Romans 12:15
03
Reaching UP + OUT
Telling the Truth
Lament, honesty, and naming our stories.
Psalm 13 · Lamentations 3
04
Holding HOPE
Holding Hope
Hope that survives uncertainty and unfinished stories.
Romans 8:18–27 · 2 Corinthians 4:16–18
Facilitators are hosts, not healers
Role clarity is a safety practice.
Facilitators hold space, keep time, and model humility. They do not diagnose, fix, or interpret trauma spiritually. Two leaders, always. Clinical consult when needed.
Do
- Listen more than you speak
- Validate without interpreting
- Keep time so many voices are heard
- Honor confidentiality and name its limits
- Pray with humility
- Seek supervision when something feels heavy
Don’t
- Promise specific outcomes
- Minimize pain with “at least…”
- Preach in response to a share
- Give medical or legal advice
- Keep serious risk disclosures to yourself
- Carry the group alone
If you are in immediate danger, call 911. If you are in emotional crisis, the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7.
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